Advantages To Being Single

There can be many advantages to being single if you just stop and think about it. When focusing on the negative aspects of being single, it’s easy to say that there are no advantages. So let’s look at some of the positive aspects of being single.

• More freedom and independence

Being single means you have more freedom. You answer to no one. If you’re single, you don’t have to let anyone know when you decide to go somewhere. It allows for more spontaneity in your life. If you want to take a weekend road trip, you can make that decision on the spur of the moment. Being single allows you to be your own person and really just do as you please. If you want to sit on the couch in an old T-shirt and shorts while munching on Doritos, no one will give you any flack for doing so. Being single allows you to make your own choices. (Guys, you wouldn’t have to worry about missing Monday Night Football to watch the Lifetime Movie of the Week.) Especially for men, being single forces you to do things for yourself, like cooking and cleaning. Being skilled at different things makes you a more complete, independent, well-rounded person, which is a great quality to have, and one that will be noticed if you decide to seek a relationship later on.

• More control over your time

We live in a busy society. You probably hear people complaining that they never have enough time, all while scribbling their plans for the next three months into their Palm Pilot. These people probably aren’t single. When you’re single, you may have more time for yourself and things that you like to do. You can set your own schedule. Being single may give you more time for hobbies, relaxation, being with friends and family, and so on. Being single gives you more time to better yourself. You can use the extra time to work on your career, or maybe take classes, either for job advancement or just for personal enrichment. Relationships and marriage especially require lots and lots of time, as anyone who is married or in a relationship will tell you. So, doesn’t it stand to reason to take advantage of any extra time while you have it?

• More control over your money

In addition to time, relationships also require money, and a lot of it. Being single gives you full financial freedom. You will be in control of where every dollar you spend goes. Guys, think of the money you’ll save by not having to pay for overpriced dinners and movies, and buying presents all the time. Being single allows you to spend money that you have on yourself with no guilt. Men, that means you can get that 36-inch high definition flat screen TV that you saw at Best Buy without getting an earful later. Ladies, you can treat yourself to that piece of jewelry or new outfit without having to use the Jaws of Life to get the Visa card out of a husband’s wallet. Being single also makes it easier to plan for saving money for the future and for unforeseen circumstances.

• Not having to tolerate another’s annoying habits

Let’s face it – all of us have quirks about ourselves that someone else finds annoying. Being single frees you from this issue, at least while you’re at home. A single person doesn’t have to listen to someone snore all night while hogging the blankets. Guys, you wouldn’t have to worry about finding a fuzzy toilet seat cover or pink shower curtain in your bathroom. Ladies, you wouldn’t have to constantly nag someone to take care of the dishes piling up in the sink or take out the trash. Being single allows you to give your patience a rest and live in a non-frustrating environment. The only disgusting habits you’ll have to put up with are your own.

• No emotional roller coaster rides

Being single allows you to stabilize your emotions. When a person is in a relationship, especially when it is just starting, your emotions can go completely out of whack. Your mind can go a mile a minute constantly thinking things like, “Does s/he still like me?”, “Did I say the right thing?”, “What should I do now?”, “When should I call next?” The list goes on and on. It’s enough to make a person go bonkers with all these emotions running rampant. In addition, being single means that you won’t have to worry about going through a heart-wrenching breakup. Once you’ve become a successful single, you will appreciate being able to be emotionally relaxed.

• Ability to become aware of who you are

Being single can give you a deeper awareness of who you really are - not someone as defined by a relationship. During the initial stages of a relationship, you try to make yourself look as good as possible to impress the other person, and often find yourself saying or doing things you normally wouldn’t do. Being single allows you to be yourself. Being single and having more time alone allows you to increase your self-awareness, define yourself as an individual, and become more in touch with your emotions and thinking.

These are just some of the advantages to being single. As you progress into becoming a successful single, you will find more and more advantages. Think of the things you wouldn’t be able to do in a relationship that you can do as a single. Think of the things you would have to do in a relationship that you wouldn’t have to do as a single. Once you move past the “grass is greener on the other side” way of thinking, you will then be ready to make the most of being single.

You may be wondering what exactly makes a successful single. There are four main characteristics:

* A successful single is one that wants to change.
o They want to discover ways of being happy as a single person.
o Only you can make the decision to want to change.

* A successful single is content and confident with who they are.
o They don’t need another person for a crutch.

* A successful single maximizes the advantages of being single while minimizing the disadvantages.
o Discover what advantages you have in being single, then use them to their full potential.
o Handle any disadvantages in a constructive manner.

* A successful single sees singleness as an opportunity, not a trap.
o Singleness is an opportunity to enrich yourself and learn more about yourself.

If you want to be a successful single, you have to feel complete on your own.