If you are a christian and are living with any kind of verbal, emotional or physical abuse please do something about it!! Dont be fooled into thinking that you ¨must stay¨ with him because it is the christian thing to do.
This is NOT true!! The Bible clearly speaks about this. Men are to LOVE their wives and protect them. It does in NO WAY condone abuse, and you are NOT bound to stay with a man who does this. Many men think that they can hide behind their religion and get away with treating their wives this way. Read the book that is about ¨Christian Men Who Hate Women¨. You can get it at a christian bookstore. This book clearly tells you many reasons why abuse takes place in religious homes and what to do about it.
I came from a large denomination and knew of someY in my own church that endure this misery and are afraid to tell or even talk about it. Many women feel like they would be put down or talked about if they expose the abuse, so their fear is doubled. However,if you allow this to continue then you are not doing the christian thing for yourself, or your children.
You MUST be the one to take charge of your life and protect yourself and your children from the abuser. He will eventually abuse them if he hasnt done so already. Think about the message you are sending to the children if you let him continue this type of behavior. You MUST be their role model and do the honorable thing.
The longer you let it continue the more likely they will become abusers themselves, and you will eventually suffer the toll it takes on you. It can and will shorten your life emotionally and physically. I went through severe depression, had headaches, and almost became too screwed up to live a normal life.
I know how hard it is to have to do something about your spouse. It was the hardest thing Ive ever done, but in doing so it sent a clear message that his behavior was NOT going to be tolerated anymore.
I went to my sister's house and she helped me through the ordeal. This aggravated him more and he continued to threaten me so I had him put out of the home with a restraining order. that got his attention. I also filed for divorce.He was ordered to go through classes for abusers. He hated it and is still in denial of any blame.
We tend to think that because we attend church regularly we must uphold an image of ¨the perfect family¨. Believe me... you don't realize how many of the people around you are going through many serious problems of their own. I heard about a pastor who said that now the percentage of divorces are higher in the church than in the secular world.
Please don't hide behind the church and let the fear of exposure keep you from doing the right thing for yourself. People can and will take sides, but your true friends and family will believe you and help, dont worry about what others will say.
You need to see very clearly what you are dealing with and how dangerous it is. Realize your spouse is sick and needs help. If he doesn't get help or want it then you must leave, or be in danger of being hurt or killed. Christian men use the same methods as non-christian men to achieve their selfish purposes. Don't be deceived!!
Most county courts will support you; mine did. Living like this, you are already on the bottom emotionally and physically. Trust in God's divine intervention and guidance for your life. He will see you through this. We are NOT to fear, fear is sin!! We cannot have His blessings if we aren't willing to do what is right for ourselves.
It is NOT His will for marriage to be this way. No matter how hopeless it seems, there is always HOPE and always a BETTER life waiting for you. I am living proof of this. God ALWAYS makes a way when there seems to be no way, He ALWAYS keeps his promises! Let Him work for you, you will NEVER, NEVER be sorry. God Bless YOU! If I can help, let me know.
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