I always wondered: what makes some be survivors and some be victims? There is a difference. I think I've compiled a pretty good list of what I've discovered along the way: what it takes to be a survivor. I'd love to hear any other things you think I should add to the list.
What It Takes To Be a Survivor:
1.) A positive attitude.
2.) Optimism, even during pain, guilt and death.
3.) A spiritual relationship with an eternal Creator.
4.) Brief moments of inner reflection and solitude.
5.) A sense of humor and ability to laugh at oneself's situation and person.
6.) Hope in a better future, either in this life or the next.
7.) Inner freedom, even when in outer bondage.
8.) Imagination/Creativity.
9.) Psychological detachment when necessary.
10.) Steely resolve to never give up.
11.) Deep love of someone or something, a love greater than of self.
12.) Finding beauty in nature, art, poetry, and literature.
13.) Striving/Struggling for a worthwhile goal.
14.) Positive energy.
15.) Finding simple pleasures: a look, a sunset, etc.
16.) Being proactive. Questioning what one does not understand.
17.) Curiosity and inquisitiveness, especially about what may happen next. A sense of adventure.
18.) Belief in personal worth. Confidence that you have something valuable and unique to offer the world, and knowing you deserve better than abuse or disrespect.
19.) ****The most important skill I've seen is the ability to recognize freedom of choice in response and in attitude.
Just remember, you CAN move from being a victim to being a survivor. The choice is up to you. Hopefully, this list will provide a good place to start.
