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Sunday, September 24, 2006
Heart Prints
Whatever our hands touch-
We leave fingerprints!
On walls, on furniture
On doorknobs, dishes, books.
There's no escape.
As we touch we leave our identity.
Oh God, wherever I go today
Help me leave heartprints!
Heartprints of compassion
Of understanding and love.
Heartprints of kindness
And genuine concern.
May my heart touch a lonely neighbor
Or a runaway daughter
Or an anxious mother
Or perhaps an aged grandfather.
Lord, send me out today
To leave heartprints.
And if someone should say,
"I felt your touch,"
May that one sense YOUR LOVE
Touching through ME.
-- Author Unknown
I Don't Do Windows
I don't do windows because...
I love birds and don't want one to run
into a clean window and get hurt.
I don't wax floors because...
I am terrified a guest will slip and get hurt
then I'll feel terrible (plus they may sue me).
I don't mind the dust bunnies because...
They are very good company, I have named most
of them, and they agree with everything I say.
I don't disturb cobwebs because...
I want every creature
to have a home of their own.
I don't Spring Clean because...
I love all the seasons and don't want the
others to get jealous.
I don't pull weeds in the garden because...
I don't want to get in God's way,
HE is an excellent designer!
I don't put things away because...
My children will never be able
to find them again.
I don't do gourmet meals when I entertain because...
I don't want my guests to stress out over what
to make when they invite me over for dinner.
I don't iron because...
I choose to believe them when they say "Permanent Press".
I don't stress much on anything because...
"A Type" personalities die young
and I want to stick around
and become a wrinkled up crusty ol' woman!!!!
Ugly Seeds
"Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can't build on it,
it's only good for wallowing in."
~ Katherine Mansfield, British writer, 1888-1923
Mistakes are like ugly seeds that if planted in the dark soil of
forgetfulness may eventually sprout and grow into beautiful
blessings. If we insist on taking them out ever so often to examine
their ugliness, however, they will never be anything but
unattractive and utterly useless. Within every error is the seed of
blessing. Regret is the herbicide that destroys its potential.
Saturday, September 23, 2006
Thoughts For Today
Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that
when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long
at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with,
never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've every had.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true
that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back!
Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't,
be content it grew in yours. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone,
an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone,
but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
Don't go for looks; they can deceive.
Don't go for wealth; even that fades away.
Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.
Find the one that makes your heart smile.
There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you
just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!
Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be,
because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong,
enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.
Always put yourself in others' shoes.
If you feel that it hurts you,
It probably hurts the other person, too.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything;
they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched,
and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on
well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
Friday, September 22, 2006
A Faithful Friend
In a Peanuts comic strip, Charlie Brown stops at the psychiatric help stand to talk with Lucy and confesses, "My trouble is I never know if I'm doing the right thing. I need to have someone around who can tell me when I'm doing the right thing." Lucy says, "Okay. You're doing the right thing. That'll be five cents, please!" Charlie Brown walks away with a smile on his face.
In a few minutes, he returns with a frown. "Back already?" asks Lucy. "What happened?" Charlie Brown says, "I was wrong. It didn't help. You need more in life than just having someone around to tell you when you're doing the right thing." Lucy says, "Now you've really learned something! That'll be another five cents please."
We all like having someone tell us when we do the right thing. And when we're doing the right thing, it's important to have friends who encourage us. But what we don't like so much is having someone tell us when we're do the wrong thing. It's not easy to hear someone say, "I'm worried about you. You've made a mistake. You don't want to end up in the direction you're headed." But that's just as important.
One of the qualities of a faithful friend is honesty even when the truth is painful. We all need someone who will love us enough not to let us head in a harmful direction, someone who with gentleness and love will help steer us back on the path of righteousness. Solomon put it this way:
"Open rebuke is better than love carefully concealed. Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." (Proverbs 27:5-6)
Charlie Brown was right. You need more in life than just having someone around to tell you when you're doing the right thing. That'll be five cents, please!
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
Things We Learn
I've learned that I like my teacher because she cries when we sing "Silent Night".
Age 6
I've learned that our dog doesn't want to eat my broccoli either.
Age 7
I've learned that when I wave to people in the country, they stop what they are doing and wave back.
Age 9
I've learned that just when I get my room the way I like it, Mom makes me clean it up again.
Age 12
I've learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should try cheering someone else up.
Age 14
I've learned that although it's hard to admit it, I'm secretly glad my parents are strict with me.
Age 15
I've learned that silent company is often more healing than words of advice.
Age 24
I've learned that brushing my child's hair is one of life's great pleasures.
Age 26
I've learned that wherever I go, the world's worst drivers have followed me there.
Age 29
I've learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it.
Age 30
I've learned that there are people who love you dearly but just don't know how to show it.
Age 42
I've learned that you can make someone's day by simply sending them a little note.
Age 44
I've learned that the greater a person's sense of guilt, the greater his or her need to cast blame on others.
Age 46
I've learned that children and grandparents are natural allies.
Age 47
I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
Age 48
I've learned that singing "Amazing Grace" can lift my spirits for hours.
Age 49
I've learned that motel mattresses are better on the side away from the phone.
Age 50
I've learned that you can tell a lot about a man by the way he handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage,and tangled Christmas tree lights.
Age 52
I've learned that keeping a vegetable garden is worth a medicine cabinet full of pills.
Age 52
I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you miss them terribly after they die.
Age 53
I've learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life.
Age 58
I've learned that if you want to do something positive for your children, work to improve your marriage.
Age 61
I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
Age 62
I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catchers mitt on both hands You need to be able to throw something back.
Age 64
I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you But if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your work, meeting new people, and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.
Age 65
I've learned that whenever I decide something with kindness, I usually make the right decision.
Age 66
I've learned that everyone can use a prayer.
Age 72
I've learned that it pays to believe in miracles And to tell the truth, I've seen several.
Age 75
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.
Age 82
I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
Age 85
I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.
Age 92
I've learned that you should pass this on to someone you care about Sometimes they just need a little something to make them smile.
Ageless
Keep Your Fork
There was a woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. As she was getting her things "in order," she contacted her pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes. She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in. The woman also requested to be buried with her favourite Bible.
Everything was in order and the pastor was preparing to leave when the woman suddenly remembered something very important to her.
"There's one more thing," she said excitedly. "What's that?" came thepastor's reply. "This is very important," the woman continued.."I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand." The pastor stood looking at the woman, not knowing quite what to say.. "That surprises you, doesn't it?" the woman asked. "Well, to be honest, I'm puzzled by the request," said the pastor.
The woman explained. "In all my years of attending church socials and potluck dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, "keep your fork." It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming..like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and with substance! So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder 'What's with the fork?' Then I want you to tell them: "Keep Your Fork..The best is yet to come"
The pastor's eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the woman good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death. But he also knew that the woman had a better grasp of heaven than he did. She KNEW that something better was coming. At the funeral people were walking by the woman's casket and they saw the pretty dress she was wearing and her favorite Bible and the fork placed in her right hand. Over and over the pastor heard the question "What's with the fork?" And over and over he smiled.
During his message, the pastor told the people of the conversation he had with the woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her. The pastor told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either.
He was right.
So the next time you reach down for your fork, let it remind you oh so gently, that the best is yet to come...
Whispering To You
Not long ago I heard a story about a young man and an old preacher. The young man had lost his job and didn't know which way to turn. So he went to see the old preacher.
Pacing about the preacher's study, the young man ranted about his problem. Finally he clenched his fist and shouted, "I've begged God to say something to help me. Tell me, Preacher, why doesn't God answer?"
The old preacher, who sat across the room, spoke something in reply - something so hushed it was indistinguishable. The young man stepped across the room. "What did you say?" he asked.
The preacher repeated himself, but again in a tone as soft as a whisper. So the young man moved closer until he was leaning on the preacher's chair. "Sorry," he said. "I still didn't hear you."
With their heads bent together, the old preacher spoke once more. "God sometimes whispers," he said, "so we will move closer to hear Him." This time the young man heard and he understood.
The next time you think that God is ignoring you, it may be that He is whispering to you, with the knowledge that it will draw you closer to Him.
In Psalm 73, the psalmist struggles with the fact that the wicked are prospering, and he is tempted to conclude that it doesn't do any good to do what is right (if you're struggling with the same thing, this is a great chapter to read and meditate on).
But, in the end, the psalmist concludes that he is being "foolish and ignorant" (73:22). When it seemed that God was nowhere to be found, the psalmist was led by God's whispering to "draw near":
"But it is good for me to draw near to God; I have put my trust in the Lord God, That I may declare all Your works." (Psalm 73:28)
May the whispers of God in your life draw you closer to Him.
My Kind Of Religion
"When I do good, I feel good. When I do bad, I feel bad. And that is my religion."
– Abraham Lincoln
Abraham Lincoln, the American president remembered as Honest Abe, is renowned for his strong leadership during the Civil War and for ending slavery in the United States. He was born in a Kentucky cabin in 1809. He taught himself law and passed the Illinois bar in 1837, the same year he first spoke out against slavery. The Southern states seceded in response to his election to the presidency in 1860. Lincoln was assassinated in 1865, mere days after General Robert E. Lee surrendered to end the war.
Tuesday, September 19, 2006
When Heaven Seems Silent
-By Linda Evans Shepherd
(Excerpt from Grief Relief from Jubilant Press)
Scenes swirled through my memories: Eighteen-month-old Laura snuggled in her car seat — red taillights — damp pavement — my foot reaching for the brakes — my car skidding out-of-control — a thunderous explosion.
Then chilling silence.
Why… why isn't my baby crying?
I turned to the back seat. Only a gaping hole remained.
I frantically clawed through the wreckage searching for my baby. Finally, I found her — still strapped in her baby seat — alive, but barely. Our lives were forever changed.
One by one, 21 health care professionals told me: “We’re giving up on your daughter. We’re denying therapy services: they are only a waste of time.”
“Laura’s a vegetable.”
“There is no hope of recovery.”
“No hope.”
I couldn’t believe God would do this to my family and me. But apparently He had.
Almost two decades later, I can see that He has turned those terrible circumstances into good. And although my daughter is severely disabled, she is not in a vegetative state. She is aware and loved.
Am I totally over the grief I faced? The answer is no. I still grieve the lost dreams I had for my daughter.
At the same time, I have given my situation up — up to God. Giving it to God was the best solution. I have tried to carry it myself, but my burden was bigger than me, more than I could possibly manage.
Remember: God is the giver of all good gifts and a salvager of pain. He can use our tragedies for good. He says all things work together for the good of those that love the Lord and are called according to His
purpose. (Rom 8:28)
But note: God does not do BAD THINGS to us so He can use them for His glory. But before God can turn our suffering into something good, we have to give the situation up to Him by repeatedly praying:
“I give my situation to You, God. Please take it from my shoulders and carry it for me.”
Does God want to carry our burdens? YES!
1 Peter 5:7 says: “Let Him have all your worries and cares, for He is always thinking about you and watching everything that concerns you.” TLB The New International Version puts it this way: “Cast all your anxiety
on Him because He cares for you.”
This means God wants you to cast, throw, toss, give your cares, worries, and burdens on Him.
At first I was too blinded by grief to see what God was up to. I felt forgotten. I peppered Him with pleading prayers and quoted Scriptures on faith to try to convince Him to heal my daughter. Yet the healing I
longed for failed to appear.
His response sounded like silence. I felt I rejected by heaven. All I could do was survive to face another day.
Then came the miracle. Even with her handicaps, Laura’s life has been a blessing beyond my wildest imagination, a blessing in more ways than I can relate here. He has indeed turned my broken child’s life into the miraculous.
Most of us are sheltered from truly tragic events. We do not see them up-close and personal everyday. But the truth is that real life is hard. Following God’s way does not usually lead to ease or easy living.
Why? Because THIS IS NOT HEAVEN! The day that the Bible promises all tears are wiped from our eyes has not arrived.
In the meantime, we struggle. We who search for meaning may never see a purpose to our suffering. And maybe that is the point! Maybe we are not supposed to understand. Instead, we are supposed to trust. Otherwise, we may follow God to get ‘benefits’ and totally miss the joy of a trusting relationship with Him.
Linda Evans Shepherd is the publisher of the Right to the Heart of Women e-zine, the President of Right to the Heart and a publisher at Jubilant Press, and the author of numerous books on spiritual growth. She can be contacted for comments or speaking engagements at LindaEvansShepherd.com
Monday, September 18, 2006
The Snake
-By Lewis K.
The Snake is the one whose legs were taken away and was forced to craw on his belly. He really has low self esteem but it comes out in ways of manipulation and control. Because he cannot really control anyone with love and honesty, he must win your attention and attract you with things like the rattler on a rattle snake saying "Here I am."
There are warnings of what is to come if one is not naive to the warnings but if one is naive and they get close then the snake must raise to striking position like the Cobra with its beautiful cape because you are a threat to them. Everything is a threat to one condemned to crawl on their belly. Once the snake gets you close, you are in trouble. Because they cannot see well, they only look for movement or heat. If it moves too quick he will strike.
Many women who marry the snake get struck for no reason what so ever. That is because the snake feels threaten by your ability to live and move and he must kill it so he will feel safe. Once the snake gets you close, he must crush you or fill your with his poison. Either way you will not be doing much living with the suffocating love of a snake.
They seem to always take but never give because they have very little to give. They use their tongues to test all of life; to smell, to sense, even to see. If you find you are being manipulated by someone in a dating relationship, open your eyes... you may be dating the snake. They use their tongue to control from the beginning. It just gets worse as it goes, if you believe the first lies, they will feed you more.
The only antidote for their poison is derived from their own poison, recognizing the lies and choose the truth. Once you have taken an antidote, the only safe thing to do with the snake is RUN, and keep distance between you and it!
For My Children
Just for this morning, I am going to smile when I see your face and laugh when I feel like crying.
Just for this morning, I will let you choose what you want to wear, and smile and say how perfect it is.
Just for this morning, I am going to step over the laundry, and pick you up and take you to the park to play.
Just for this morning, I will leave the dishes in the sink, and let you teach me how to put that puzzle of yours together.
Just for this afternoon, I will unplug the telephone and keep the computer off, and sit with you in the backyard and blow bubbles.
Just for this afternoon, I will not yell once, not even a tiny grumble when you scream and whine for the ice cream truck, and I will buy you one if he comes by.
Just for this afternoon, I won't worry about what you are going to be when you grow up, or second guess every decision I have made where you are concerned.
Just for this afternoon, I will let you help me bake cookies, and I won't stand over you trying to fix them.
Just for this afternoon, I will take us to McDonald's and buy us both a Happy Meal so you can have both toys.
Just for this evening, I will hold you in my arms and tell you a story about how you were born and how much I love you.
Just for this evening, I will let you splash in the tub and not get angry.
Just for this evening, I will let you stay up late while we sit on the porch and count all the stars.
Just for this evening, I will snuggle beside you for hours, and miss my favorite TV shows.
Just for this evening when I run my finger through your hair as you pray, I will simply be grateful that God has given me the greatest gift ever given.
I will think about the mothers and fathers who are searching for their missing children, the mothers and fathers who are visiting their children's graves instead of their bedrooms, and mothers and fathers who are in hospital rooms watching their children suffer senselessly, and screaming inside that they can't handle it anymore.
And when I kiss you good nigh t I will hold you a little tighter, a little longer. It is then, that I will thank God for you, and ask him for nothing, except one more day...
Friday, September 15, 2006
Random Thoughts
The nicest thing about the future
is that it always starts tomorrow.
Money will buy a fine dog, but only
kindness will make him wag his tail.
If you don't have a sense of humor,
you probably don't have any sense at all.
Seat belts are not NEAR as confining
as a wheel-chair!
A good time to keep your mouth shut
is when you're in deep water.
How come it takes so little time for a child
who is afraid of the dark to become a
teenager who wants to stay out all night?
Business conventions are important because
they demonstrate how many people a
company can operate without.
Why is it that at class reunions you feel
younger than everyone else looks?
Scratch a dog behind the ears,
and you'll find a permanent job.
No one has more driving ambition
than the boy who wants to buy a car.
There are really no "new sins"....the
old ones just getting more publicity.
There are worse things than getting
a call for a wrong number at 4 AM.
.....It could be a RIGHT number!
Think about this..., No one ever says,
"It's only a game" when his team is
doing the winning.
I've reached the age where
the happy hour is a nap.
Be careful reading the fine print.
There's no way you're going to like it.
The trouble with bucket seats is that
not everybody has the same size bucket.
Do you realize that in about 40 years,
we'll have thousands of old ladies
running around with tattoos?
Money can't buy happiness -- but
somehow it's more comfortable to
cry in a Corvette than in a Yugo.
After a certain age, if you don't
wake up aching in every joint
........you are probably dead!
Good, Bad and Ugly
Good: Your hubby and you agree, no more kids
Bad: You can't find your birth control pills
Ugly: Your daughter borrowed them
Good: Your son studies a lot in his room
Bad: You find several porn movies hidden there.
Ugly: You're in them
Good: Your husband understands fashion
Bad: He's a cross-dresser
Ugly: He looks better than you
Good: Your son's finally maturing
Bad: He's involved with the woman next door
Ugly: So are you
Good: Giving the birds & bees talk to your daughter
Bad: She keeps interrupting
Ugly: With corrections
Good: Your wife's not talking to you
Bad: She wants a divorce
Ugly: She's a lawyer
Good: The postman's early
Bad: He's wearing fatigues and carrying an AK47
Ugly: You gave him nothing for Christmas
Good: Your daughter got a new job
Bad: As a hooker
Ugly: Your coworkers are her best clients
Way ugly: She makes more money than you do
Good: You're son is dating someone new
Bad: It's another man
Ugly: He's your best friend
Good: You're wife is pregnant.
Bad: It's triplets
Ugly: You had a vasectomy five years ago.
Wednesday, September 13, 2006
Good For The Soul
Last week I took my children to a restaurant. My
six-year-old son asked if he could say grace. As
we bowed our heads he said, "God is good, God is
great. Thank you for the food, and I would even
thank you more if Mom gets us ice cream for
dessert. And Liberty and justice for all! Amen!"
Along with the laughter from the other customers
nearby I heard a woman remark, "That's what's wrong
with this country. Kids today don't even know how
to pray. Asking God for ice cream! Why, I never!"
Hearing this, my son burst into tears and asked
me, "Did I do it wrong? Is God mad at me?"
As I held him and assured him that he had done a
terrific job and God was certainly not mad at him,
an elderly gentleman approached the table. He
winked at my son and said, "I happen to know that
God thought that was a great prayer." "Really?" my
son asked. "Cross my heart," the man replied. Then
in a theatrical whisper he added (indicating the
woman whose remark had started this whole thing),
"Too bad she never asks God for ice cream. A little
ice cream is good for the soul sometimes."
Naturally, I bought my kids ice cream at the end
of the meal. My son stared at his for a moment
and then did something I will remember the rest of
my life. He picked up his sundae and without a
word, walked over and placed it in front of the
woman. With a big smile he told her, "Here, this
is for you. Ice cream is good for the soul
sometimes; and my soul is good already."
Sometimes we all need some ice cream.
I hope God sends you some Ice Cream today!
Tuesday, September 12, 2006
A Tough Choice
A man and his ever-nagging wife went on vacation to Jerusalem. While they were there, the wife passed away. The undertaker told the husband, "You can have her shipped home for $5,000, or you can bury her here, in the Holy Land, for $150." The man thought about it and told him he would just have her shipped home.
The undertaker asked, "Why would you spend $5,000 to ship your wife home, when it would be wonderful to be buried here and you would spend only $150?"
The man replied, "Long ago a man died here, was buried here, and three days later he rose from the dead. I just can't take that chance."
How Come?
Monday, September 11, 2006
Just P.U.S.H.
A man was sleeping at night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled with light, and God appeared. The Lord told the man he had work for him to do, and showed him a large rock in front of his cabin. The Lord explained that the man was to push against the rock with all his might.
So, this the man did, day after day. For many years he toiled from sun up to sun down; his shoulders set squarely against the cold, massive surface of the unmoving rock, pushing with all of his might. Each night the man returned to his cabin sore and worn out, feeling that his whole day had been spent in vain.
Since the man was showing discouragement, the Adversary (Satan) decided to enter the picture by placing thoughts into the weary mind: "you have been pushing against that rock for a long time, and it hasn't moved." Thus, giving the man the impression that the task was impossible and that he was a failure. These thoughts discouraged and disheartened the man.
Satan said, "Why kill yourself over this?" "Just put in your time, giving just the minimum effort; and that will be good enough." That's what he planned to do, but decided to make it a matter of prayer and take his troubled thoughts to the Lord.
"Lord," he said, "I have labored long and hard in your service, putting all my strength to do that which you have asked. Yet, after all this time, I have not even budged that rock by half a millimeter. What is wrong? Why am I failing?"
The Lord responded compassionately, "My friend, when I asked you to serve Me and you accepted, I told you that your task was to push against the rock with all of your strength, which you have done. Never once did I mention to you that I expected you to move it. Your task was to push.
And now you come to Me with your strength spent, thinking that you have failed. But, is that really so? Look at yourself. Your arms are strong and muscled, your back sinewy and brown, your hands are callused from constant pressure, your legs have become massive and hard. Through opposition you have grown much, and your abilities now surpass that which you used to have.Yet you haven't moved the rock. But your calling was to be obedient and to push and to exercise your faith and trust in My wisdom. This you have done. Now I, my friend, will move the rock."
At times, when we hear a word from God, we tend to use our own intellect to decipher what He wants, when actually what God wants is just a simple obedience and faith in Him. By all means, exercise the faith that moves mountains, but know that it is still God who moves mountains.
When everything seems to go wrong ... just P.U.S.H.
When the job gets you down ... just P.U.S.H.
When people don't react the way you think they should... just P.U.S.H.
When your money is "gone" and the bills are due...just P.U.S.H.
When people just don't understand you ... just P.U.S.H.!
P=Pray
U=Until
S=Something
H=Happens
A Trucker's Story
I try not to be biased, but I had my doubts about hiring Stevie. His placement counselor assured me that he would be a good, reliable busboy. But I had never had a mentally handicapped employee and wasn't sure I wanted one. I wasn't sure how my Customers would react to Stevie. He was short, a little dumpy with the smooth facial features and thick-tongued speech of Down Syndrome. I wasn't worried about most of my trucker customers because truckers don't generally care who buses tables as long as the meatloaf platter is good and the pies are homemade. The four-wheeler drivers were the ones who concerned me; the mouthy college kids traveling to school; the yuppie snobs who secretly polish their silverware with their napkins for fear of catching some dreaded "truck stop germ"; the pairs of white shirted business men on expense accounts who think every truck stop waitress wants to be flirted with.
I knew those people would be uncomfortable around Stevie so I closely watched him for the first few weeks. I shouldn't have worried. After the first week, Stevie had my staff wrapped around his stubby little finger, and within a month my truck regulars had adopted him as their official truckstop mascot. After that, I really didn't care what the rest of the customers thought of him. He was like a 21-year-old in blue jeans and Nikes, eager to laugh and eager to please, but fierce in his attention to his duties.
Every salt and pepper shaker was exactly in its place, not a bread crumb or coffee spill was visible when Stevie got done with the table. Our only problem was persuading him to wait to clean a table until after the customers were finished. He would hover in the background, shifting his weight from one foot to the other, scanning the dining room until a table was empty. Then he would scurry to the empty table and carefully bus dishes and glasses onto cart and meticulously wipe the table up with a practiced flourish of his rag. If he thought a customer was watching, his brow would pucker with added concentration. He took pride in doing his job exactly right, and you had to love how hard he tried to please each and every person he met.
Over time, we learned that he lived with his mother, a widow who was disabled after repeated surgeries for cancer. They lived on their Social Security benefits in public housing two miles from the truck stop. Their Social worker, who stopped to check on him every so often, admitted they had fallen between the cracks. Money was tight, and what I paid him was probably the difference between them being able to live together and Stevie being sent to a group home.
That's why the restaurant was a gloomy place that morning last August, the first morning in three years that Stevie missed work. He was at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester getting a new valve or something put in his heart. His social worker said that people with Down syndrome often had heart problems at an early age so this wasn't unexpected, and there was a good chance he would come through the surgery in good shape and be back at work in a few months.
A ripple of excitement ran through the staff later that morning when word came that he was out of surgery, in recovery and doing fine. Frannie, the head waitress, let out a war hoop and did a little dance in the aisle when she heard the good news. Belle Ringer, one of our regular trucker customers, stared at the sight of the 50-year-old grandmother of four doing a victory shimmy beside his table. Frannie blushed, smoothed her apron and shot Belle Ringer a withering look. He grinned. "OK, Frannie, what was that all about?" he asked. "We just got word that Stevie is out of surgery and going to be okay." "I was wondering where he was. I had a new joke to tell him. What was the surgery about?"
Frannie quickly told Belle Ringer and the other two drivers sitting at his booth about Stevie's surgery, then sighed. "Yeah, I'm glad he is going to be OK" she said. "But I don't know how he and his Mom are going to handle all the bills. From what I hear, they're barely getting by as it is." Belle Ringer nodded thoughtfully, and Frannie hurried off to wait on the rest of her tables. Since I hadn't had time to round up a busboy to replace Stevie and really didn't want to replace him, the girls were busing their own tables that day until we decided what to do. After the morning rush, Frannie walked into my office. She had a couple of paper napkins in her hand a funny look on her face."
What's up?" I asked. "I didn't get that table where Belle Ringer and his friends were sitting cleared off after they left, and Pony Pete and Tony Tipper were sitting there when I got back to clean it off" she said. "This was folded and tucked under a coffee cup." She handed the napkin to me, and three $20 bills fell onto my desk when I opened it. On the outside, in big, bold letters, was printed "Something For Stevie."
"Pony Pete asked me what that was all about," she said, "so I told about Stevie and his Mom and everything, and Pete looked at Tony and Tony looked at Pete, and they ended up giving me this." She handed me another paper napkin that had "Something For Stevie" scrawled on its outside. Two $50 bills were tucked within its folds. Frannie looked at me with wet, shiny eyes, shook her head and said simply "truckers."
That was three months ago. Today is Thanksgiving, the first day Stevie is supposed to be back to work. His placement worker said he's been counting the days until the doctor said he could work, and it didn't matter at all that it was a holiday. He called 10 times in the past week, making sure we knew he was coming, fearful that we had forgotten him or that his job was in jeopardy.
I arranged to have his mother bring him to work, met them in the parking lot and invited them both to celebrate his day back. Stevie was thinner and paler, but couldn't stop grinning as he pushed through the doors and headed for the back room where his apron and busing cart were waiting. "Hold up there, Stevie, not so fast," I said. I took him and his mother by their arms. "Work can wait for a minute. To celebrate you coming back, breakfast for you and your mother is on me." I led them toward a large corner booth at the rear of the room. I could feel and hear the rest of the staff following behind as we marched through the dining room. Glancing over my shoulder, I saw booth after booth of grinning truckers empty and join the procession.
We stopped in front of the big table. Its surface was covered with coffee cups, saucers and dinner plates, all sitting slightly crooked on dozens of folded paper napkins. "First thing you have to do, Stevie, is clean up this mess," I said. I tried to sound stern. Stevie looked at me, and then at his mother, then pulled out one of the napkins. It had "Something for Stevie" printed on the outside. As he picked it up, two $10 bills fell onto the table. Stevie stared at the money, then at all the napkins peeking from beneath the tableware, each with his name printed or scrawled on it. I turned to his mother. "There's more than $10,000 in cash and checks on that table, all from truckers and trucking companies that heard about your problems. Happy Thanksgiving."
Well, it got real noisy about that time, with everybody hollering and shouting, and there were a few tears, as well. But you know what's funny? While everybody else was busy shaking hands and hugging each other, Stevie, with a big, big smile on his face, was busy clearing all the cups and dishes from the table. Best worker I ever hired. Plant a seed and watch it grow.
She Has Done What She Could
Jesus was in Bethany at the home of Simon, a man who had leprosy. During supper, a woman came in with a beautiful jar of expensive perfume. She broke the seal and poured the perfume over his head. Some of those at the table were indignant. "Why was this expensive perfume wasted?" they asked. "She could have sold it for a small fortune and given the money to the poor!" And they scolded her harshly.
But Jesus replied, "Leave her alone. Why berate her for doing such a good thing to me? You will always have the poor among you, and you can help them whenever you want to. But I will not be here with you much longer. She has done what she could and has anointed my body for burial ahead of time. I assure you, wherever the Good News is preached throughout the world, this woman's deed will be talked about in her memory."
The woman's name is not mentioned here, but in John 12 we are told that her name was Maria. Jesus said that what she did was so important that it would be a memorial to her throughout the ages! She did what she could. Am I doing what I can? There is something I can do, something God Himself has gifted me to do. It may not be much. It may not draw much attention, but it is what I can do and the Lord will receive it gladly as a gift from me to Him.
Every individual is a genius in one area of life or another. There is something you can do better than anyone around you simply because you are specifically gifted to do that unique thing easily and effectively.
God does not require of me that I do what others are doing. This often leads to a spirit of competition. He wants me to do what He has enabled me to do either through natural gifting or through special training that improves my natural or spiritual gifts.
Go forward doing what He has designed you to do. This special thing, or things, is something He placed within you to grow and blossom in its own time. Do what you feel comfortable doing because you know you can do it well. "It is God at work in you both to will and to do of His good pleasure." Go and do what you can do! Do what you want to do! One of the blessings of a consecrated life is that God is the one who works in your "wanter" to do what He wants you to do!
-Robert & Joni Fitts
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
B-U-S-Y
Satan Called a Worldwide Convention.
In his opening address to his evil angels, Satan said, "We can't keep the Christians from being Christians. We can't keep them from reading their Bibles and knowing the truth. We can't even keep them from forming an intimate, abiding relationship experience in Christ. If they gain that connection with Jesus, our power over them is broken.
So, let them go to their churches; let them have their conservative lifestyles, but steal their time, so they can't gain that relationship with Jesus Christ. This is what I want you to do, angels. Distract them from gaining hold of their Saviour and maintaining that vital connection throughout their day!"
"How shall we do this?" shouted his angels.
"Keep them busy in the non-essentials of life and invent innumerable schemes to occupy their minds," he answered. "Tempt them to spend, spend, spend, and borrow, borrow, borrow. Persuade the wives to go to work for long hours and the husbands to work 6-7 days each week, 10-12 hours a day, so they can afford empty lifestyles. Keep them from spending time with their children. As their family fragments, soon, their home will offer no escape from the pressures of work!
"Over-stimulate their minds so that they cannot hear that still, small voice. Entice them to play the radio or cassette player whenever they drive. To keep the TV, VCR, CDs and their PCs going constantly in their home and see to it that every store and restaurant in the world plays non-biblical music constantly. This will jam their minds and break that union with Christ. Fill the coffee tables with magazines and newspapers.
"Pound their minds with the news 24 hours a day. Invade their driving moments with billboards. Flood their mailboxes with junk mail, mail order catalogues, sweepstakes, and every kind of newsletter and promotional offering free products, services and false hopes. Keep skinny, beautiful models on the magazines so the husbands will believe that external beauty is what's important, and they'll become dissatisfied with their wives. Ha! That will fragment those families quickly!
"Even in their recreation, let them be excessive. Have them return from their recreation exhausted, disquieted and unprepared for the coming week. Don't let them go out in nature to reflect on God's wonders. Send them to amusement parks, sporting events, concerts and movies instead. Keep them busy, busy, busy! And when they meet for spiritual fellowship, involve them in gossip and small talk so that they leave with troubled consciences and unsettled emotions.
"Go ahead, let them be involved in soul winning; but crowd their lives with so many good causes they have no time to seek power from Jesus. Soon they will be working in their own strength, sacrificing their health and family for the good of the cause. It will work! It will work!"
It was quite a convention. The evil angels went eagerly to their assignments causing Christians everywhere to get more busy and more rushed, going here and there. I guess the question is: Has the devil been successful at his scheme? You be the judge! Does "busy" mean:
B-eing U-nder S-atan's Y-oke?
****I think we probably sabotage our selves and are oppressed by the physical world as much as the demon world, but these are no doubt vises in our lives where the devil can get a foothold. I'm all for not giving him any footholds! However, I think we need the body to help each other identify the areas of distraction in our lives. For we tend not to see them ourselves.
Lord, I thank you for bringing to our attention the areas of distraction we often fall into. I thank you also for allowing us to suffer through them for a time in order to convince us of just how detrimental our fleshly ways are to our relationship with you. Continue to convict our hearts I pray, and bring around us others Saints who will encourage a narrow and Holy walk with you.****
The Rim
"Never let yesterday use up too much of today."
~ Will Rogers, American humorist, 1879-1935
Using up today by rehashing yesterday is like traveling to the
Grand Canyon and spending the entire visit in the gift shop looking
at postcards. We have to be willing to leave the past behind us and
step to the rim of today to take full advantage of the view.
How To Install Love
Tech Support: Yes, ... how can I help you?
Customer: Well, after much consideration, I've decided to
install Love. Can you guide me through the process?
Tech Support: Yes, I can help you! Are you ready to proceed?
Customer: Well, I'm not very technical, but I think I'm ready.
What do I do first?
Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located
your Heart?
Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now.
Is it okay to install Love while they are running?
Tech Support: What programs are running?
Customer: Let's see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge
and Resentment running right now.
Tech Support: No problem, Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from
your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory
but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override
Low Self-Esteem with a module of its own called High Self-Esteem. However,
you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs
prevent Love from being properly installed. Can you turn those off?
Customer: I don't know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how?
Tech Support: With pleasure. Go to your start menu and invoke
Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and
Resentment have been completely erased.
Customer: Okay, done! Love has started installing itself. Is
that normal?
Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program.
You need to begin connecting to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.
Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, "Error
Program not run on external components." What should I do?
Tech Support: Don't worry. It means that the Love program is set up to
run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In
non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before
you can Love others.
Customer: So, what should I do?
Tech Support: Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following
files: Forgive-Self; Realize Your Worth; and Acknowledge your
Limitations.
Customer:Okay, done.
Tech Support: Now, copy them to the "My Heart" directory. The system
will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming.
Also, you need to delete Verbose Self-Criticism from all directories
and empty your Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone and never
comes back.
Customer: Got it. Hey! My heart is filling up with new files.
Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying
themselves all over My Heart. Is this normal?
Tech Support: Sometimes. For others it takes awhile, but eventually
everything gets it at the proper time. So Love is installed and
running.
One more thing before we hang up. Love is Freeware. Be sure to give it
and its various modules to everyone you meet. They will in turn share it
with others and return some cool modules back to you.
Customer: Thank you, God.
Don't Stop Now!
It was a sultry Saturday, July 2002. Hundreds of onlookers gazed at the
participants in the annual track and field event in Durham, North
Carolina. Parents, friends, and spectators sat under colossal umbrellas
shielding from the blazing sun, while restlessly shifting on the rigid and
uncomfortable aluminum bleachers that surrounded the stadium.
At nine years old, she came running full speed and straight ahead,
leaving everyone else behind while completing her 440-yard race. With arms
outstretched, she crossed the finish line and victoriously walked off
the track exhausted -- and a conqueror. Truly, she was the winner
because everyone else in the race was -- what seemed like miles behind.
Listening for the cheers of family and friends, she heard none. There
were no victory cheers, no clapping, and no smiles. Instead, her
supporters were yelling and motioning for her to keep going, because she had
not won the race. Her race was not complete, because she stopped too
soon! She stopped 12 feet before the official finish line!
Onlookers were stunned. Supporters' heads dropped and then emotions
flared as outcries of disgust and blame rang throughout the stadium toward
the event timers. "You're standing at the wrong line," someone yelled
at the event timer. "You misled her into thinking that you were at the
finish line," someone else shouted.
What had really happened? And, who was really to blame?
The true winner -- or so she thought -- did not complete her race. The
true winner was in fact, not the winner at all.
Perhaps misguided by the event timers standing 12 feet before the
finish line, she stopped, thinking that she had won. In her mind, she was
the winner -- but according to the rules, she was not.
Trailing her, another runner crossed the official finish line and won
the race. Why, because evidently, she knew what the goal was and was not
going to stop until she reached it. She did not allow distractions to
stop her. She did not allow anyone to mislead her. She was not going to
stop until she was indeed the WINNER!
What goals must you reach to be declared the winner in your life? What
distractions must you ignore or get rid of to reach your goals?
Whatever your goals are, it is up to you, and no one else to reach
them. Whatever the distractions are, it is up to you to honestly and wisely
deal with or do away with them.
If you want to live a purposeful and fulfilling life, then wisely and
wholeheartedly do what you must -- but don't stop until you reach them.
Don't stop now!
Copyright 2003 by Audrina Jones Bunton.
participants in the annual track and field event in Durham, North
Carolina. Parents, friends, and spectators sat under colossal umbrellas
shielding from the blazing sun, while restlessly shifting on the rigid and
uncomfortable aluminum bleachers that surrounded the stadium.
At nine years old, she came running full speed and straight ahead,
leaving everyone else behind while completing her 440-yard race. With arms
outstretched, she crossed the finish line and victoriously walked off
the track exhausted -- and a conqueror. Truly, she was the winner
because everyone else in the race was -- what seemed like miles behind.
Listening for the cheers of family and friends, she heard none. There
were no victory cheers, no clapping, and no smiles. Instead, her
supporters were yelling and motioning for her to keep going, because she had
not won the race. Her race was not complete, because she stopped too
soon! She stopped 12 feet before the official finish line!
Onlookers were stunned. Supporters' heads dropped and then emotions
flared as outcries of disgust and blame rang throughout the stadium toward
the event timers. "You're standing at the wrong line," someone yelled
at the event timer. "You misled her into thinking that you were at the
finish line," someone else shouted.
What had really happened? And, who was really to blame?
The true winner -- or so she thought -- did not complete her race. The
true winner was in fact, not the winner at all.
Perhaps misguided by the event timers standing 12 feet before the
finish line, she stopped, thinking that she had won. In her mind, she was
the winner -- but according to the rules, she was not.
Trailing her, another runner crossed the official finish line and won
the race. Why, because evidently, she knew what the goal was and was not
going to stop until she reached it. She did not allow distractions to
stop her. She did not allow anyone to mislead her. She was not going to
stop until she was indeed the WINNER!
What goals must you reach to be declared the winner in your life? What
distractions must you ignore or get rid of to reach your goals?
Whatever your goals are, it is up to you, and no one else to reach
them. Whatever the distractions are, it is up to you to honestly and wisely
deal with or do away with them.
If you want to live a purposeful and fulfilling life, then wisely and
wholeheartedly do what you must -- but don't stop until you reach them.
Don't stop now!
Copyright 2003 by Audrina Jones Bunton.
Monday, September 04, 2006
Looking For Love
-By Jenny
jmgroo@yahoo.com
I feel extreme pity on those still looking for love in all the wrong
places. So desperate to be loved they look everywhere except in
the face of the One who loves them with a love so pure, so strong,
so true, so faithful.
They wonder if anyone cares, and all the while there is a God who
continually thinks on them.
Psalm 139 says:
How precious to me are your thoughts, O God!
How vast is the sum of them!
Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand.
Here is a beautiful song I have been enjoying on the 'in love-ness'
God has with us, and therefore us with Him:
ALWAYS ON HIS MIND by Misty Edwards
Lord, I will seek You
On my bed, think upon You
In the day, I'll dream of You
You're always on my mind
With my whole heart I'll love You
With my mind and my strength too
Waste my life searching for You
You're always on my mind
Though I'm poor and needy, the Lord thinks upon me
Though His name is Holy,
I'm always on His mind -
I'm always on His mind
Though I'm weak and lowly,
the Lord dreams about me
Though He's high and lofty,
I'm always on His mind -
I'm always on His mind
I'm in love with God
God's in love with me (This is who I am and this is who I'll be)
Hey - Yeah (repeat)
How far will You let me go?
How abandoned will You let me be? (repeat)
Live loved!!!
Love, Jenny
Quotes:
All the glory and beauty of Christ are manifested within, and there
He delights to dwell; His visits there are frequent, His
condescension amazing, His conversation sweet, His comforts
refreshing; and the peace that He brings passeth all understanding.
- Thomas a Kempis
Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on
society. -- Mark Twain
Sunday, September 03, 2006
God Is At The Window
There was a little boy visiting his grandparents on their farm. He was given a slingshot to play without in the woods. He practiced in the woods, but he could never hit the target. Getting a little discouraged, he headed back for dinner.
As he was walking back he saw Grandma's pet duck. Just out of impulse, he let the slingshot fly, hit the duck square in the head, and killed it. He was shocked and grieved. In a panic, he hid the dead duck in the wood pile, only to see his sister watching! Sally had seen it all, but she said nothing.
After lunch the next day Grandma said, "Sally, let's wash the dishes." But Sally said, "Grandma, Johnny told me he wanted to help in the kitchen." Then she whispered to him, "Remember the duck?" So Johnny did the dishes.
Later that day, Grandpa asked if the children wanted to go fishing and Grand! ma said, "I'm sorry but I need Sally to help make supper." Sally just smiled and said," Well that's all right because Johnny told me he wanted to help." She whispered again, "Remember the duck?"
So Sally went fishing and Johnny stayed to help.
After several days of Johnny doing both his chores and Sally's he finally couldn't stand it any longer. He came to Grandma and confessed that he had killed the duck. Grandma knelt down, gave him a hug, and said, "Sweetheart, I know. You see, I was standing at the window and I saw the whole thing. But because I love you, I forgave you. I was just wondering how long you would let Sally make a slave of you."
Thought for the day and every day thereafter: Whatever is in your past, whatever you have done -- and the devil keeps throwing it up in your face (lying, debt, fear, hatred , anger, unforgiveness, bitterness, etc.) whatever it is, you need to know that God was standing at the window and He saw the whole thing, He has seen your whole life. He wants you to know that He loves you and that you are forgiven. He's just wondering how long you will let the devil make a slave of you.
The great thing about God is that when you ask for forgiveness, He not only forgives you, but He forgets -
It is by God's Grace and Mercy that we are saved.
I Got More Than I Asked God For
I asked God for water,
He gave me an ocean.
I asked God for a flower,
He gave me a garden.
I asked God for a friend,
He gave me many.
If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.
Happy moments, praise God.
Difficult moments, seek God.
Quiet moments, worship God
Painful moments, trust God.
Every moment, thank God.
The Empty Chair
A man's daughter had asked the local minister to come and pray with her father. When the minister arrived, he found the man lying in bed with his head propped up on two pillows. An empty chair sat beside his bed.
The minister assumed that the old fellow had been informed of his visit.
"I guess you were expecting me," he said. "No, who are you?" said the father.
The minister told him his name and then remarked, "I see the empty chair
I figured you knew I was going to show up." "Oh yeah, the chair," said the bed ridden man. "Would you mind closing the door?" Puzzled, the minister shut the door.
"I have never told anyone this, not even my daughter," said the man.
"But all of my life I have never known how to pray. At church I used to hear the pastor talk about prayer, but it went right over my head. I abandoned any attempt at prayer," the old man continued, "until one day about four years ago my best friend said to me, 'Johnny, prayer is just a simple matter of having a conversation with Jesus. Here is what I suggest."
"Sit down in a chair; place an empty chair in front of you, and in faith see Jesus on the chair. It's not spooky because he promised, "I'll be with you always." Then just speak to him in the same way you're doing with me right now."
"So, I tried it and I've liked it so much that I do it a couple of hours every day. I'm careful though. If my daughter saw me talking to an empty chair, she'd either have a nervous breakdown or send me off to the funny farm."
The minister was deeply moved by the story and encouraged the old man to continue on the journey. Then he prayed with him, anointed him with oil, and returned to the church.
Two nights later the daughter called to tell the minister that her daddy had died that afternoon. "Did he die in peace?" he asked. "Yes, and when I left the house about two o' clock, he called me over to his bedside and told me he loved me and kissed me on the cheek. When I got back from the store an hour later, I found him dead. But there was something strange about his death. Apparently, just before Daddy died, he leaned over and rested his head on the chair beside the bed. What do you make of that?" The minister wiped a tear from his eye and said, "I wish we could all go like that."
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